Starting a new school year or returning after a break can bring a mix of excitement and nerves for children and young people. Most children need a little time to readjust to school routines, and parents and carers play an important role in helping them make a positive start.
Working together, families and schools can help children feel confident, connected and ready to learn.
Build excitement together
In the days before school starts, talk positively about the new term. Encourage your child to think about things they are looking forward to, such as:
- Seeing friends
- Meeting new teachers
- Taking part in clubs or activities
- Learning new subjects
- Returning to familiar routines
Focusing on positive opportunities can help children feel more confident about returning to school.
Focus on facts, not predictions
Children sometimes worry about things that might happen when they return to school. If your child shares concerns, encourage them to focus on what they know rather than imagining worst-case scenarios.
Listen carefully, acknowledge their feelings and reassure them that worries are normal. Reassure them it's ok to have these worries and praise them for sharing them with you. Worries, anxious thoughts or anxiety can happen if your child feels out of control. It helps to find things they can control and start from there.
If concerns continue, speak with the school so that support can be put in place.
Manage your own worries
If you're worried about your child going to school, make sure you are taking care of your own mental health.
Read advice on parental burnout.
You can also talk to someone in your support network. They may be having the same concerns.
Be positive when dropping off your child, even if you're not feeling your best. If you can, hide any worries as your child will pick up on these.
Build independence through simple choices
Giving children some control can help build confidence. Consider offering simple choices such as:
- Choosing their school bag or stationery
- Selecting breakfast options
- Planning after-school activities
- Deciding what to wear during non-uniform days
Small decisions can help children feel prepared and capable.
Re-establish school routines early
A gradual return to school routines can make the transition easier. Try to:
- Move bedtimes earlier a few days before term starts. Read advice on getting your child back into a sleep routine before they go back to school.
- Practise morning routines. Can you make the school routine more enjoyable? For example, try making a morning playlist. Pack school bags in advance - it's one less thing to think about on the day. Plan your journey. You can practise this with your child before the first day. Children who have to get to school by themselves might be particularly nervous.
- Prepare school equipment the night before
- Plan travel arrangements in advance
Familiar routines help children feel secure and ready for school.
Make goodbyes easier
Some children may feel anxious when separating from parents or carers. Keeping goodbyes calm, positive and consistent can help.
Children often take confidence from the adults around them, so try to reassure them and maintain a positive approach during drop-off. You can also read advice on separation anxiety.
Allow time to rest and recharge
Returning to school can be tiring, especially during the first few weeks. Children may need time after school to relax and unwind.
This could include:
- Quiet time
- Reading
- Outdoor play
- Listening to music
- Spending time with family
Balancing school, activities and rest can help children maintain positive wellbeing and be ready to learn the next day.
When to seek additional support
If your child continues to experience significant anxiety or is finding it difficult to attend school, please speak to your child's school as soon as possible. Schools can work with families to understand concerns and identify appropriate support.
You can also seek advice from your GP or relevant health professionals if you have concerns about your child's emotional wellbeing.